i’m almost done w/ hill harper’s book—one of the few books i’ve enjoyed in a long time. so, i’ve been thinking a lot about love/relationships lately.

i think a lot of people, myself included, want to be in a relationship because love is such a life-affirming thing. nothing really beats one kick ass person making you feel like you’re amazing no matter what. sounds selfish but…it’s true. but, while reading the book, i’ve come to realize that it’s easy to get caught up in that part of relationships and forget about the other part—your commitment to someone’s life.

relationships are really about selflessness, devoting your time and energy to another person’s well-being. of course, you expect the same in return but that’s still quite a bit of work. in the beginning, it’s fun and hot and new. but more and more, you invest in someone’s highs and lows, their history and their future, their ambitions and their insecurities. i believe when the right person makes you want to be that selfless, it’ll be natural. but i think you also have to be ready. sometimes i think i’ve gotten so accustomed to my routines, being alone, and doing whatever the hell i want all the time, that giving my energy, time and space to another person will be super hard. and…it will. but, the right person will make it worth it.

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